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So, the mods have their work cut out for them, and they do what is needed to put out the fires WE create ![]() 1. PM the user and instruct them to re-phrase or alter their own post to be more appropriate. 2. If the thing that was posted was *really* bad, Put the message in spoiler tags, and send the user a PM. This way, less users will see the post in passing, and it does not alter a person's own words, which I find greatly inappropriate in itself. 3. Mods do not edit a user's words ever. If a user has ignored the Mod's request to make their wording more appropriate, the user is banned for a short time. If a user repeatedly does this, the user is banned for longer, or perma-banned for not following the rules. Simple. Cut. Dry. :) Of course, there's also the issue of what is "inappropriate". Is "~~~~ you" more inappropriate to repeatedly, aggressively arguing your point and minimizing the validity of another's point - without the use of swear words our foul language - but making a person feel like their opinion is garbage because someone has given 9,432 reasons why its garbage? I find "~~~~ you" far less offensive, and far more to the point :P However, we need to address both issues. Neither should be allowed to fester. Ultimately I find the latter issue - Inappropriateness so well written that you have to read between the lines to see it - is the one that is missed COMPLETELY on here, where a simple eff you is jumped on like its a sin. This is wrong IMO, for the simple reason that if a person consistently and vigorously tells you that there are 500 reasons why your opinion is not entirely accurate or complete, or valid, or you missed something, it can be FAR more hurtful FAR more often because it is psychological abuse, and it is detrimental to other user feeling free to express themselves because it promotes the fear that you will soon be invalidated. It is negative energy, and can easily cause a derogatory remark to be thrown out in frustration that ones own opinion has been torn to shreds in detail persistently enough that that person feels just like someone hammered "~~~~ your opinion" at them multiple times for stating an incorrect opinion. HAVING SAID THAT, IMO resorting to swear words or derogatory remarks towards others can be extremely hurtful, and is neither acceptable nor a "better alternative", and I am in no way defending the use of it...It was used as a comparison to bring light to other forms of unacceptable things said. Once a mandate for what *is* inappropriate has been determined (or perhaps posted somewhere or updated if it already exists), we should be good to go. And "spiral" threads can stop spawning every time something newsworthy happens. With the ultimate goal of having more positives vibes and an atmosphere more open to discussion. Isn't that what this place is here for? :P Last edited by stretch37; 19 Aug 2013 at 22:32. |
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I think Rainer and his team have a perfectly good system of moderating. The thread you are quoting from is rather different. It's not about exercising a set of rules generally on a forum, but an attempt to get a contentious thread cleaned up and some of the anger moved so it can stay open.
Personally I prefer calm and rational argument any day that the hurling of epithets and personally offensive remarks. We shall have to differ on that one ![]() |
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After many years here and a name change I still consider myself a newbie compared to many MLUKFC veterans. There is one thing I still notice and that is everyones definition of "inappropriate" is different and that includes myself. So the "power to the people" mode may not work here or at any other board. There also seems to be three camps posting here, people who question Meat, those who don't, and others who stay in the middle. The first two tend to go after each other often which IMO is the reason why the mods are needed. Granted, I don't see anything wrong with tough and expressive conversation but if everyones definition is different then it will never work.
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I'm not sure I could find 500 reasons to use repeatedly in any argument, nor have I seen anyone use anything like that number, and certainly not the 9,432 reasons why anyone's opinion would be garbage that you refer to ![]() However, if you are going to support logical argument rather than emotional and angry statements/judgements (and I would wholeheartedly support that), you must surely expect that people will hold their ground. If you find that aggressive rather than assertive I can't help feeling that you have the issue ![]() Calm and logical argument surely would be consistent. And why should anyone put their point weakly? I'm not sure what your definition of "vigorous" is when using the written word, but I can't see how that is likely to be hurtful or psychologically abusive? To be honest I only feel overwhelmed by someone's argument when they have more facts I cannot ignore, than I have to support my view .. at which point I usually realise they're probably right ![]() I said I thought there was a pretty robust system of moderation in place already. One suggestion you proposed was "Mods do not edit a user's words ever." That I disagree with profoundly. I think people on here are perfectly well aware of what is simply out of order and grossly rude. I see no reason if they post in that way to or about other members for it to remain while they are asked to remove it. Do I support Mouse removing the assertion that I, out of all those who posted here that Meat got better every show this tour (and I am not sure I actually did!) am singled out as an arse-kissing sycophant whose reviews are tiresome? Frankly, yes. In my view he was right to remove that under the forum rules that I am perfectly sure the poster was aware of ![]() |
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Exactly what Butcher said. Id like to add the disgusting editing that went on in the Termination thread.
I dont really understand definitions either. ive made some comments and I too have a different definition was inappropriate or whatever. I can see editing personal attacks but when we are discussing PUBLIC FIGURES like Meat and Patti its opinion! |
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![]() 1:00AM Poster A insults poster B. 1:05AM Poster A goes offline. 2:00AM Mod A reads the message. Sends poster A a message asking them to edit their words. Logs out. 3:00AM Poster B logs in. 3:01AM Poster B reads poster A's message. 3:59AM Poster B finally finishes their post telling poster A various new and inventive ways they can go f##k themselves. Plays arcade for a few mins, goes offline. 5:00AM Poster C turns up. Reads Poster B's message and comes to the defence of Poster A telling Poster B that they are an asshole for overreacting. 6:00AM Mod B logs in. Reads the thread, sends posters AB&C messages to edit their posts. 7:00AM Posted D logs in. Tells everyone to get along. 8:00AM Poster E "likes" Poster D's comment. 9:00AM Poster F yells at Poster A. 9:30AM Mod A logs back in. Knowing they have already sent a message to Poster A, they send messages to Posters BC&F. 10:00AM Mod C logs in. Reads thread and sends Posters ABC&F PM's asking them to change their posts. 11:00 Poster A logs in to a full PM box. Edits message, but not enough to be acceptable. 11:30 Mod D logs in. Sends messages to ABC&F telling them all to edit their messages, and logs off. 11:31AM Poster A sends PM to Mod D saying they've already done it. In the meantime Posters GHIJKL&M have also put their $00.02 in. 11:43AM Mod E logs in, sees thread, runs for dear life. That's a whole lot of PM's, and it's not even noon yet ![]() And that's just one thread. Quote:
Human nature would make most posters click the hide button to see what's been said even though (or perhaps, especially) because they think it's because somebody has posted something offensive. Example. Last edited by The Flying Mouse; 20 Aug 2013 at 02:24. |
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The HIDE button does not HIDE anything in my mobile app.
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what a nightmare
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I won't disagree with you on that but I also think that taking responsibility for what you say is not whining if your posts are edited to remove offensive content by a moderator, just accept that you said somet6hing you shouldn't and move on.
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Its really very simple. And no, it is not *more* time consuming than spending an hour cleaning a 10 page thread, and having Meat start a new thread because the first thread was locked, and then having to merge and clean both. And them re-moderate and clean again. ![]() ![]() Give the people the power to make their own decision on the matter. Lets make a use case! :) Use case 1: There is a thread about Patti's dismissal from the band. Conversation spirals out of control, hurtful things are said. Its 5 pages long. Solution: Lock the dismissal thread. PM those who said things in a hurtful way. Lets say there were 15 posts that need to be macheteed to death. Each of those users gets a chance to change their own post. They have a timeframe. Pick a number depending on the topic. If its HOT, give the person 5 hours to change it. PM's send an email to the inbox, so the person should receive a reminder email. No need to add new functionality. Next, wait for the time to elapse. If the time elapses and not all 15 users have edited their own post, DELETE THE POST. I REPEAT, NO ONES WORDS SHOULD EVER BE EDITED BY ANYONE. Add a message to the deleted post. "user did not respond within timeframe to edit defamatory remarks, and therefore, post has been removed as per forum rules". As a last resort, this at least helps the conversation flow still make sense . (Eg. a reaction to a removed '~~~~ you') Immediately make a new thread with a shpiel similar to what Mouse did for this one, stating to please keep speculation to a minimum and that any further defamatory remarks will cause an immediate 5 hour user ban. Yes, it seems a bit extreme, but its honestly far LESS extreme than having someone alter a user's own words without consent. That is outright disgusting and rude. Its that simple. Discuss and refine the process. What I said is just one idea from one brain and two eyes :P To state the most stupidly obvious thing. And we as a group can come up with better. Last edited by stretch37; 20 Aug 2013 at 22:45. |
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Stretch, I am not comfortable with you trying to rewrite board rules.
I am not happy when my posts are edited sure but I do not own this place so everything I post can be deleted and I can't do anything about that and that in fact is fair I think. In fact the owners can do what the hell they want really as long as they don't bully anyone. It is entirely funded by them and can thus be controlled by them. There is nothing that states this is a full democracy or that it requires to be that. And in fact a democracy does not work in all cases. For example there is 1 sheep and 2 wolves. The two wolves, who have the majority of the vote can in a full democracy vote to eat the sheep!! ![]() |
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Bottom line is that people don't like when their posts get rewritten or removed. All I did...Let me repeat, ALL I DID, was put out an initial idea, just an inkling, a suggestion if you like, of how we could stop everyone from being upset all the time by their posts being torn apart. This is a discussion forum, and as such, I was discussing ideas for avoiding upset. Apparently, discussing that is actually causing upset though ![]() ![]() But what really peeves me is when I make a suggestion, and in that suggestion I say *hey, this is an idea, lets discuss it*, and rather than discussing it, everyone gets mad at me for trying to help solve the problem that upsets them, and 2) point fingers at me like, "MATT YOU ARE TRYING TO BE GOD AND REWRITE THE RULES". That is so far from the truth hahah! Its an IDEA, not a mandate. I have no desire to be a mod! nor do I think I'm above or below anyone on here, nor am I trying to dictait something to the mods, nor do I think anything EXCEPT that a user's words perhaps shouldn't be edited, and here are some suggestions for working around that if the people want it. The mods on here do a great job, AS I POSTED AT THE BEGINNING OF THE THREAD ![]() Last edited by stretch37; 20 Aug 2013 at 23:23. |
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The flip side is, this is pretty much the only message board that I still visit so for me they must be doing something right I think. We've had plenty discussions about how things could be improved in the past. I just don't see things changing really and this a board on which two recently promoted mods left because of Meat's own actions. However mostly those who are offended/irritated usually come back. Does all this stuff make it 100% right? Probably not. Does it make it interesting and fun (even the frustration at times)? - Yes. ![]() |
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I know how difficult a job the mods have here at times - believe me I know, I married one! ![]() |
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Just because some feel the system works pretty well most of the time, that there are pretty clear rules of engagement we should all be aware of, and that it's acceptable for moderators to enforce this by way of editing/removal (and you can always appeal via PM) why do you feel peeved, or it would seem attacked in some way? Not all agree with your proposals, that's all. The current situation isn't an every day one .. it's not unique, but events were almost guaranteed to create a furore. The moderators will simply do their best to deal with it as it unfolds .. and are. |
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