Dottie - Page 5

Angryuser · 01 Apr 2006, 14:10

Ok there was supposedly a link to the BBC website about chris "murdering" roy. When you remove the /BBC.html from the URL it takes you to chris's own site. where everything had been ready to go with the fake "murder" story since the 15th or 16th of March

LucyK! · 01 Apr 2006, 14:13

I think some serious lines have been crossed.

Angryuser · 01 Apr 2006, 14:20

I was following the story through another forum, and I was so disgusted when we started to realise that it was an elaborate joke just to try and fool people for "april fools day". I have been itching all day to get in and blow the whistle but had to wait for my membership to be activated.

R. · 01 Apr 2006, 14:24

Be very careful how and about what you "blow the whistle".

Angryuser · 01 Apr 2006, 14:28

"blow the whistle" meant alert people that it was not true, that it was all a "joke".

Leah · 01 Apr 2006, 16:03

I did wonder about it being an aprils fool but I can't say that I found it very funny, it was abit heavy going at times.

Though I appreciate that it must have taken you a long time and lots of effort to organise..

fireballgirl63 · 01 Apr 2006, 18:48

Well now I'm disappointed that I didn't post my earlier thoughts before the ruse was discovered. I held off on the slight chance that there may have been some truth to it. But I've decided to post it now.

Dottie - I belive you have made the right decision to stay with Roy. If you'd chosen Chris he probably would have left you for the first rack (of lamb) that walked by or the next spring chicken that came crashing into his life.

Well done guys - I for one found it a very amusing read (as I did your torrid 12 days of Christmas)

Cathie · 01 Apr 2006, 20:00

Could the person who emailed me please have a look at my blog.

Paul191 · 01 Apr 2006, 20:26

Hahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa. When I found out it was all a joke, I curled up into a ball of laughter. Just be glad someone found it funny...... Great one

Paul191 · 01 Apr 2006, 20:27

Actually, just thinking, if this has been planned, does this mean the whole Dottie and Chris 'love' situation was false too?

Chris · 01 Apr 2006, 20:44

Sadly it was entirely false - Dottie is quite happy with her hubby adn i am quite content with my significant other.

Yes the "news" story was written a couple of weeks ago - the whole thing was planned about a month or more ago.

Ageing Bat · 01 Apr 2006, 21:56

Oh, how un-funny is this year's April Fools 'joke'...... again.

I posted something very personal as a friend to two people I cared about, who I thought needed help. Yes, I was given the opportunity to remove my post early, but decided to leave it where it was as it may help someone who genuinely needs an alternative angle on their situation. I wasn't alone in wanting to help a friend, and that hurts too.... how many people's feelings were messed with in the name of 'fun'?

April Fools are supposed to be harmless fun - not with the intention of potentially causing upset or harm. There is a difference. And no, I don't have a sense of humour failure ...... I just don't want anyone to ever feel like I did last year on April 1st as a direct result of the 'joke' on this forum.

I'm sorry Chris, Dottie and the others that were involved in the planning of this, but you have lost the level of respect I had for you. Messing with peoples feelings isn't funny, it's cruel and hurtful. I thought better of you.

Paul191 · 01 Apr 2006, 22:01

Although i feel for 'Ageing Bat' I still think it was a great joke and ingeniously put together. Maybe if the joke, directly, affected me then i may have a different opinion.

DIZZY DRUMMER · 01 Apr 2006, 22:47

I'm with sarah - people care about you guys & you have lost respect - but I have heard that nasty things have been said - you need to think things through thoroughly before attempting sure a scam.

There are always going to be people who care - hurt - offend - I thought you guys would know that !!

Hope your decisions are not perminant

Ageing Bat · 01 Apr 2006, 22:55

I don't bear a grudge...... life's too damned short to waste the energy on anger!

Carnivor · 02 Apr 2006, 02:07

Well this is my first post and I followed the Dottie/Chris saga from the start.

It was a very well planned con worthy of any hollywood script writer's attention. Unfortunately it did mess with real people's feelings and I hope that in time those people will forgive and see it for the 'joke' it was meant to be.

p.s. never use navy to post against a brown background!

Sue K · 02 Apr 2006, 05:23

.. well.. this thread came to my attention the other day... and while it seemed feasible Chris would initially be writing to Dottie publicly.. due to a filled pm box.. imo Dottie's replies went over the top.. and were too toying .. and "knowing" Dottie and Chris.. i thought they would never post publicly something so private.... must admit.. i was closeasthis for a mo'.. lol.. but then.. i thought.. after being a board member for some time.. and seeing you guys about.. none of it was ringing true.. and then ..it dawned on me re: April Fools' Day...that's the ticket !!..

i'm sorry though .. that people were hurt over this... hope all sorts out..

a word of advice... next time.. send a p m.. rather than reply publicly... it will save yourself the hurt...

take care...

most sincerely...

tink...

LucyK! · 02 Apr 2006, 10:38

I'm with Ageing Bat and FA - people took time out of their private lives to advise you guys, be it online, text, phone, whatever. What's worse is that instead of letting us in on the "joke", you let your friends sit and continue to advise you, despite knowing that the whole thing was utter rubbish.

dottie · 02 Apr 2006, 10:42

I apologise unreservedly to anyone who has been hurt by our April Fools topic...

At the moment I'm also licking my wounds, and feel that I cann't stay around here for the time being, and will take my leave as from today until some time in the future...

love dottie
xxxxx

Pudding · 02 Apr 2006, 12:01

You have no need to apologise. Jesus H Christ, some people are so highly strung they'll get their knickers in a twist at the slightest murmur. It was obvious from the very first post that it was all tongue in cheek, yet some people are that gullible they took it all in, hook, line and sinker. If people are offended by it then screw 'em..figuratively speaking of course

Pud

Sue K · 02 Apr 2006, 12:14

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pudding

You have no need to apologise. Jesus H Christ, some people are so highly strung they'll get their knickers in a twist at the slightest murmur. It was obvious from the very first post that it was all tongue in cheek, yet some people are that gullible they took it all in, hook, line and sinker. If people are offended by it then screw 'em..figuratively speaking of course

Pud

.. i think Dottie's done the appropriate thing by apologizing.. Chris should as well.. and all injured parties should accept that and let go.. afterall .. y'all now have 364 to plan your own April Fools for next year...

... if parties were genuinely injured.. Pud.. it's not a case of "screw 'em"... but hopefully. lessons have been learned.. and twisted knickers.. in the future.. shall be hung out behind closed pm doors..

...

so.. to the injured.. accept the apology... and go on with the fun...

and to Dottie.. get over it as well.. and no licking of wounds.. ay?..

sincerely...

tink...

Pudding · 02 Apr 2006, 12:36

I don't see what either Chris or Dottie has to apologise for. It wasn't the joke that was over the top (although it was getting up there) it was peoples reactions to it that was going over the top.

If some people feel injured by it, then tough, perhaps they should learn not to over-react to something that was obviously a wind up from the start.

Pud

Sue K · 02 Apr 2006, 13:14

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pudding

I don't see what either Chris or Dottie has to apologise for. It wasn't the joke that was over the top (although it was getting up there) it was peoples reactions to it that was going over the top.

If some people feel injured by it, then tough, perhaps they should learn not to over-react to something that was obviously a wind up from the start.

Pud

perhaps the majority saw it that way Pud.. but there were a few that did not.. and to those... i say.. as before.. accept the apology offered... be of good cheer..and carry on...

...

sincerely..

tink...

Chris · 02 Apr 2006, 14:39

I will apologise unreservedly to anyone who took offence by our prank. It was intended entirely as a wind up and not aimed to cause offence.

For those complaining that it was planned, yes it was. The idea was concieved not long after christmas given all the people who took our little xmas blog seriously!!

The vast majority of people have been in touch to say that they thought it was a good joke but for the half dozen people who took offence - sorry.

However, I trust that since we are expected to apologise then the few people who decided to get extremely personal and send very very nasty emails/PMs will now apologise to us.

And incidentally, to the person sending those emails to Cathie, it was not her idea, it was my idea so if you have issues, take them up with me.

Ageing Bat · 02 Apr 2006, 14:45

The meaning of forgiveness:

Forgiveness is a choice the forgiver makes to let go of resentment held in the forgiver's mind of a perceived wrong or difference, either actual or imagined. As the choice of forgiveness is made in the mind of the forgiver, it can be made about any resentment, whether toward another, oneself, a group, a situation or even one's God. Forgiveness of another can be granted with or without the other asking for forgiveness. Some believe the choice of forgiveness is only properly exercised if forgiveness is requested. Another view is that forgiveness is a gift the forgiver gives to oneself to free their mind of resentment. Forgiveness does not entail condoning the wrong or difference that occasioned the resentment. Foregiveness can be seen as "selective remembering"; a person has the choice of what they remember and foregive.

Forgiveness can be seen as a religious or spiritual value. However, belief in a deity is not necessary for forgiveness. It can be motivated by love, philosophy, appreciation for the forgiveness of others, empathy, or personal temperament. Even pure pragmatism can lead to forgiveness, as it is well documented that people who forgive are happier than those who hold grudges.

I'm Happy

And for the record...... it's most certainly not me sending nasty emails.

01 Apr 2006, 14:10	#101
Angryuser Rookie Join Date: 01.04.2006 Location: Australia Posts: 5	Ok there was supposedly a link to the BBC website about chris "murdering" roy. When you remove the /BBC.html from the URL it takes you to chris's own site. where everything had been ready to go with the fake "murder" story since the 15th or 16th of March

01 Apr 2006, 14:13	#102
LucyK! The Monster Is Luce Join Date: 14.04.2002 Location: Posts: 7,547	I think some serious lines have been crossed.

01 Apr 2006, 14:20	#103
Angryuser Rookie Join Date: 01.04.2006 Location: Australia Posts: 5	I was following the story through another forum, and I was so disgusted when we started to realise that it was an elaborate joke just to try and fool people for "april fools day". I have been itching all day to get in and blow the whistle but had to wait for my membership to be activated.

01 Apr 2006, 14:24	#104
R. You dig. Join Date: 02.04.2002 Location: On the fothermucker Posts: 7,179	Be very careful how and about what you "blow the whistle".

01 Apr 2006, 14:28	#105
Angryuser Rookie Join Date: 01.04.2006 Location: Australia Posts: 5	"blow the whistle" meant alert people that it was not true, that it was all a "joke".

01 Apr 2006, 16:03	#106
Leah Mega Loafer Join Date: 03.04.2005 Location: Cleethorpes, North East coast of England Posts: 1,510	I did wonder about it being an aprils fool but I can't say that I found it very funny, it was abit heavy going at times. Though I appreciate that it must have taken you a long time and lots of effort to organise..

01 Apr 2006, 18:48	#107
fireballgirl63 Senior Loafer Join Date: 07.11.2003 Location: Posts: 196	Well now I'm disappointed that I didn't post my earlier thoughts before the ruse was discovered. I held off on the slight chance that there may have been some truth to it. But I've decided to post it now. Dottie - I belive you have made the right decision to stay with Roy. If you'd chosen Chris he probably would have left you for the first rack (of lamb) that walked by or the next spring chicken that came crashing into his life. Well done guys - I for one found it a very amusing read (as I did your torrid 12 days of Christmas)

01 Apr 2006, 20:00	#108
Cathie Sweet But Sadistic Join Date: 18.06.2003 Location: Lincolnshire/Essex depending on the time of year! Posts: 4,098	Could the person who emailed me please have a look at my blog.

01 Apr 2006, 20:26	#109
Paul191 Mega Loafer Join Date: 26.11.2005 Location: Posts: 1,530	Hahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa. When I found out it was all a joke, I curled up into a ball of laughter. Just be glad someone found it funny...... Great one

01 Apr 2006, 20:27	#110
Paul191 Mega Loafer Join Date: 26.11.2005 Location: Posts: 1,530	Actually, just thinking, if this has been planned, does this mean the whole Dottie and Chris 'love' situation was false too?

01 Apr 2006, 20:44	#111
Chris Mega Loafer Join Date: 14.04.2002 Location: Somewhere in the real world. Posts: 7,527	Sadly it was entirely false - Dottie is quite happy with her hubby adn i am quite content with my significant other. Yes the "news" story was written a couple of weeks ago - the whole thing was planned about a month or more ago.

01 Apr 2006, 21:56	#112
Ageing Bat Young at heart. Slightly older in other places. Join Date: 20.11.2003 Location: Here! Posts: 1,311	Oh, how un-funny is this year's April Fools 'joke'...... again. I posted something very personal as a friend to two people I cared about, who I thought needed help. Yes, I was given the opportunity to remove my post early, but decided to leave it where it was as it may help someone who genuinely needs an alternative angle on their situation. I wasn't alone in wanting to help a friend, and that hurts too.... how many people's feelings were messed with in the name of 'fun'? April Fools are supposed to be harmless fun - not with the intention of potentially causing upset or harm. There is a difference. And no, I don't have a sense of humour failure ...... I just don't want anyone to ever feel like I did last year on April 1st as a direct result of the 'joke' on this forum. I'm sorry Chris, Dottie and the others that were involved in the planning of this, but you have lost the level of respect I had for you. Messing with peoples feelings isn't funny, it's cruel and hurtful. I thought better of you.

01 Apr 2006, 22:01	#113
Paul191 Mega Loafer Join Date: 26.11.2005 Location: Posts: 1,530	Although i feel for 'Ageing Bat' I still think it was a great joke and ingeniously put together. Maybe if the joke, directly, affected me then i may have a different opinion.

01 Apr 2006, 22:47	#114
DIZZY DRUMMER Always Ready For A Bang Join Date: 30.11.2003 Location: Left In The Dark .......... AGAIN Posts: 6,389	I'm with sarah - people care about you guys & you have lost respect - but I have heard that nasty things have been said - you need to think things through thoroughly before attempting sure a scam. There are always going to be people who care - hurt - offend - I thought you guys would know that !! Hope your decisions are not perminant

01 Apr 2006, 22:55	#115
Ageing Bat Young at heart. Slightly older in other places. Join Date: 20.11.2003 Location: Here! Posts: 1,311	I don't bear a grudge...... life's too damned short to waste the energy on anger!

02 Apr 2006, 02:07	#116
Carnivor Rookie Join Date: 01.04.2006 Location: Australia Posts: 15	Well this is my first post and I followed the Dottie/Chris saga from the start. It was a very well planned con worthy of any hollywood script writer's attention. Unfortunately it did mess with real people's feelings and I hope that in time those people will forgive and see it for the 'joke' it was meant to be. p.s. never use navy to post against a brown background!

02 Apr 2006, 05:23	#117
Sue K Mega Loafer Join Date: 20.04.2003 Posts: 13,041	.. well.. this thread came to my attention the other day... and while it seemed feasible Chris would initially be writing to Dottie publicly.. due to a filled pm box.. imo Dottie's replies went over the top.. and were too toying .. and "knowing" Dottie and Chris.. i thought they would never post publicly something so private.... must admit.. i was closeasthis for a mo'.. lol.. but then.. i thought.. after being a board member for some time.. and seeing you guys about.. none of it was ringing true.. and then ..it dawned on me re: April Fools' Day...that's the ticket !!.. i'm sorry though .. that people were hurt over this... hope all sorts out.. a word of advice... next time.. send a p m.. rather than reply publicly... it will save yourself the hurt... take care... most sincerely... tink...

02 Apr 2006, 10:38	#118
LucyK! The Monster Is Luce Join Date: 14.04.2002 Location: Posts: 7,547	I'm with Ageing Bat and FA - people took time out of their private lives to advise you guys, be it online, text, phone, whatever. What's worse is that instead of letting us in on the "joke", you let your friends sit and continue to advise you, despite knowing that the whole thing was utter rubbish.

02 Apr 2006, 10:42	#119
dottie queen post- whore extraordinaire Join Date: 29.01.2003 Location: Still Rockin' at "72" Posts: 13,181	I apologise unreservedly to anyone who has been hurt by our April Fools topic... At the moment I'm also licking my wounds, and feel that I cann't stay around here for the time being, and will take my leave as from today until some time in the future... love dottie xxxxx

02 Apr 2006, 12:01	#120
Pudding I'm A Prize Fight Lover... Join Date: 22.10.2003 Location: New Zealand Posts: 5,532	You have no need to apologise. Jesus H Christ, some people are so highly strung they'll get their knickers in a twist at the slightest murmur. It was obvious from the very first post that it was all tongue in cheek, yet some people are that gullible they took it all in, hook, line and sinker. If people are offended by it then screw 'em..figuratively speaking of course Pud

02 Apr 2006, 12:36	#122
Pudding I'm A Prize Fight Lover... Join Date: 22.10.2003 Location: New Zealand Posts: 5,532	I don't see what either Chris or Dottie has to apologise for. It wasn't the joke that was over the top (although it was getting up there) it was peoples reactions to it that was going over the top. If some people feel injured by it, then tough, perhaps they should learn not to over-react to something that was obviously a wind up from the start. Pud

02 Apr 2006, 14:39	#124
Chris Mega Loafer Join Date: 14.04.2002 Location: Somewhere in the real world. Posts: 7,527	I will apologise unreservedly to anyone who took offence by our prank. It was intended entirely as a wind up and not aimed to cause offence. For those complaining that it was planned, yes it was. The idea was concieved not long after christmas given all the people who took our little xmas blog seriously!! The vast majority of people have been in touch to say that they thought it was a good joke but for the half dozen people who took offence - sorry. However, I trust that since we are expected to apologise then the few people who decided to get extremely personal and send very very nasty emails/PMs will now apologise to us. And incidentally, to the person sending those emails to Cathie, it was not her idea, it was my idea so if you have issues, take them up with me.

02 Apr 2006, 14:45	#125
Ageing Bat Young at heart. Slightly older in other places. Join Date: 20.11.2003 Location: Here! Posts: 1,311	The meaning of forgiveness: Forgiveness is a choice the forgiver makes to let go of resentment held in the forgiver's mind of a perceived wrong or difference, either actual or imagined. As the choice of forgiveness is made in the mind of the forgiver, it can be made about any resentment, whether toward another, oneself, a group, a situation or even one's God. Forgiveness of another can be granted with or without the other asking for forgiveness. Some believe the choice of forgiveness is only properly exercised if forgiveness is requested. Another view is that forgiveness is a gift the forgiver gives to oneself to free their mind of resentment. Forgiveness does not entail condoning the wrong or difference that occasioned the resentment. Foregiveness can be seen as "selective remembering"; a person has the choice of what they remember and foregive. Forgiveness can be seen as a religious or spiritual value. However, belief in a deity is not necessary for forgiveness. It can be motivated by love, philosophy, appreciation for the forgiveness of others, empathy, or personal temperament. Even pure pragmatism can lead to forgiveness, as it is well documented that people who forgive are happier than those who hold grudges. I'm Happy And for the record...... it's most certainly not me sending nasty emails.