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Originally Posted by CarylB
Thanks  But that was really my point, ie that we're not talking to each other over a drink. We're posting written words .. and they will echo loudly after we've left the bar for others to hear when they come in. And it's not merely about "the boss" walking in imo .. it's about many fans who don't all feel the same. I've never found it that onerous to consider the likely response to what I say, whether face to face or in writing. I tend to do it automatically to attempt to get the best response I can anyway. But in writing you can't see, as you can face to face, the immediate response and add something immediately to further explain or to take a perceived sting out of what you've said.
Yes, that this is an issue and that the artist is interested enough to come and post here is fact, and one worth bearing in mind I think. I still believe those who have said think 'before you hit the button' offer wise advice, because we're not chatting face to face, we don't all know each other as well as we might some friends we regularly meet face to face .. and I really don't feel uncool to think before I post, or avoid words to describe all or even aspects of the artist's work as "crap" or in any other terms which might not be meant to be discourteous or inflammatory, but which can easily be taken to be when read some hours or days later. |
You're right, Caryl, it is about many fans who don't all feel the same, but who also have many different personalities and ways of expressing themselves. You are a person who carefully thinks everything out in advance; other people may use more "colorful" language to express themselves. I don't think there's anything wrong with either approach, as long as people aren't being clearly offensive, which I honestly can't say I've ever seen on this board. I mean, are we seriously arguing about the use of the word "crap" on the one hand, while some people are complaining about curse words being bleeped out on the DVD?
At the end of the day, this place is supposed to be fun. It becomes less so when people have to walk on eggshells for fear of upsetting someone with one "wrong" word. I think it would be great if we could reach some happy medium, but unfortunately it always seems to come back to the same old arguments. I agree with Lucy- eventually what's going to happen is that people will stop posting completely or just leave altogether, and I don't think anybody wants to see that happen.