Like Sarah, I have a slightly murky past...
I was married at 19, to my first serious boyfriend. After about 4 years of being the chief cook, cleaner, bottle washer and everything else, I was not a happy bunny, and fate introduced me to Richard, who was seeing one of my ex-'s mates... Within a month, I knew I loved him, and that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him, but it was a huge leap from the safety and security of marriage (even though it was by no means a happy one) to the unknown of a relationship with a man I hardly knew, who is nearly 20 years older than me.
It came to a head for me when Richard went abroad on business and having said it would be nice if he came home and I was there, gave me the key to his house. My ex- and I had gone to visit friends for the weekend, rowing all the time, and when we got back, he said "I've had enough of this, pack your things and get out!" It was the push I'd been waiting for, and I did just that... moved into Richard's house while he was 6000 miles away, and spent a week by myself. That was when I realised I didn't miss my husband AT ALL, and I've never looked back since. We've now been together for 9 years, married for 6, and have two beautiful children together. We've been through some ups and downs, but as Sarah says, we've worked through them together because we truly love each other.
Dottie, my advice is follow your heart... but use your head - make sure you have security JUST IN CASE it doesn't work out the way you hope it will - and good luck x
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