I know what it's like Keb. My mum tried to stop me finding out about my dad to the extent of me having to call him at three in the morning and having to fly to Norway to meet him. I think that unless the father has done something extremely bad, all children should have the legal right to see their father. Ok, sometimes it is not good for the mother but the chances are that they have grown up with both their parents in a stable household. I know how fathers could be driven to do this because my dad was in the same position. As soon as my mum came out of the hospital after giving birth to me, she packed her bags and moved in with one of her friends. It took me thirteen years and a lot of begging on my part to find out what his name was. I tracked him down using the internet and a letter I found by accident. When mum found out that I was in contact with him, she went mad and almost threw me out (again...). A lot of the judges who give custody to the mother don't think about whether the child wants to only see his/her father for a few hours a week. I really regret not being more persistent and finding out about him sooner because he has become a very good friend to me, wheras my mum acts like he doesnt exist even though she loved him at one time.
Aw crap. yet again I've been rambling.
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